Phenomenal Point of Views by Drishna.

In life, the emotional bond in which parents share with their children, will never change. Reasonably so, our instinct to nurture and protect, behooves us to ensure the success of our children by molding them into good members of society; however, it is possible to take such responsibilities to extremes. Too much of a good thing is never good and when it comes to over- protecting and smothering your children, you've only achieved one thing - "A societal fool". I've been apprehensive about writing on such a topic but the world suffers from too many stifled men and it's time we understand why.  I am not a mother, but I comprehend the importance in having a good relationship with my mother and to learn from her experiences. I also applaud a son's love and care for his mother but like millions of women, I know all too well about the challenges of a "Mama's boy". I've experienced being in a relationship with them, studied the different cases ...

Believe it or not, I'll preface this article by permitting us all to liberate ourselves, through our fantasies. The point is... let's rid ourselves of the pretentious front, we'll never succeed being someone we're not. Hence, the reason why there are unhappy people walking our streets. Everyone has a different tolerance level for boredom but when it comes the the bedroom, boredom can never equate to being satisfied. What does this have to do with love- making? A lot! I'm pretty sure you've been in a relationship or is currently involved with a great person but the heat between the sheets is practically non- existent. As a result, your body is left unsatisfied and very disappointed. The effects can even hamper the relationship through frustration and unless you communicate the kind of spice you want in sex, then your desires will only remain desires, unfulfilled. 

Such a diverse word and yet we only seek after one of it's purposes,  Such a powerful sequence and yet we do not see, Such a masterful trepidation; eventually we count it as one of our loses,  Such an elaborate expression that from us, it will never flee. By: Drishna Gibson   I am forever grateful, that I was present at a service at my church when I heard a simple yet profound statement being uttered from my Pastor's mouth. It struck me as sharp and swift as a razor. Of course it applied to me and I bet, the billions of us in the world, who often frolic in love's secret place. Of course we know and it is a fact because the Bible does not lie, that Love is patient, 1 Cor. 13: 4-7 clearly states it but do we truly understand it to be so? Trust me I am not going to preach but the statement is so easily said and seems to be difficult to live. On the contrary, what outlives patience in this situation, is lust. Lust for what may I ask? To belong? To feel wanted o...

Relationships should be likened to the harmony of a floating swan on a still lake. How tranquil is the thought of it being that way but contrary to that imagery, it seems quite the opposite. It is with passion and much enlightenment, that I thought this matter should be brought to the fore. Of course I won't seek to co-relate national independence with personal independence but in relationships, they aren't much different. 

Considering that we've established clearly, that it's vital for wives to carry themselves and act a certain way. I wish to reiterate that every woman should hold her own individually, so as to break the barriers of "motherhood". One might ask about the particulars required in holding your own individually; it's not rocket science to understand how vital confidence and a high level of class, exemplifies a person. You see Ladies, empowerment to reach such a standard, is self- motivated, creating a public understanding of what you're really about. I'm sure by now you're questioning where I am going with this. It's simple; before a woman becomes a wife, she must be a holistic woman, carrying the finite capacity to exude power. Power to activate the desired result without forced effort because, it's who you are.  Hoping that I've opened your minds to a new perspective of a woman, transitioning wife. It's imperative that we examine the...

Evidently, marriage embodies the sacred union of two individuals bringing together a melting pot of love,  personalities, attitudes and traits. It's almost definite for every marriage to encounter some rocky roads along life's journey but one must ask the question; how much can I really tolerate? I guess the ladies might have a list of 'pet peeves' but do men really consider what's their true 'deal breaker'? I'm sure you guys are saying, " Yes we do ". For some, that might be the case but in marriage, being naive and making the 'deal breakers' trivial matters can really affect you in the long run.

It's quite astonishing how much a song can transform the thinking and behaviors, of millions of women around the world. When Kelis dropped the hit song, I was well into my teenage years and it was all I heard on the radio for a long time back in 2004 but contrary to it's distinct sexual connotation, it sent me a different kind of message. Without focus being on the song, my emphasis will be directed to how it's title became such an impactful phrase. Just a couple weeks ago, I was having a delightful conversation with a good friend and he dropped this phrase on me like it's hot!

It's with constant evaluation that I admire the many diversities in men. However; the differences seem to be purposeful to teach us all a lesson about the men in our lives. Whether we appreciate it or not, all men can not be the same but it's vital that we remain realistic in assessing their maturity and inept ability or competence to be "The Man". I look forward to helping us asses, that the boys we raise do not merely become men by adding years but in character. 

Life isn't always the way it seems when people are in relationships. 'Faking it til you make it', has sugar coated the growing pains and deceived a lot of people in love. Of course it's done that way to cushion each other's feelings but Ladies, the tension in your neck and the ache in your spine isn't going to disappear on its own. I'm not talking about the bottle of Ibuprofen in your medicine chest nor the jar of Icy Hot on your bed side table. I'm addressing the much needed mind blowing sex, millions of women all over the world are lacking.  Right across the spectrum of relationships, both men and women are frustrated by this 'failed orgasm' shadow. I pity the women who carry the pent up fever and really feel it for the men who aren't very knowledgeable  in how to get her there. Hopefully, all that is going to end today because I am choosing to educate us all on how to reach the ultimate climax and change some bedroom perspectives....

The universal practice of having an outside lover, seems to be the trending lifestyle. Boy toys have moved from cars and gadgets to women. Arguably so, some women seem to enjoy the new attention and clearly work hard in keeping all eyes on 'the booty-call' but what really is the importance of 'the other woman'? I want to take a realistic look at this trend and why it's the new common cold, just for men.  I've seen it all and it doesn't take a married woman only, to testify of an unfaithful mate. Not lashing out on the fellas here because some women do enjoy an extra 'side' but my individual opinion stands resolute on a monopoly. However, I'd keep my own emotions at bay and do my best in revealing the all time truth about the luxury of the outside package.

The teenagers of today are our world's future but are we shaping them the right way, to produce a better tomorrow? It's been long time coming, as my passion for youth is a deep one and my thoughts are at most times sorrowful, when I consider the trending patterns of our young people. I'm not that old myself but I'm old enough to compare and contrast, the various differences between my teen years and now. It's fitting to say here and now, that if it was not for my mother's impactful guidance, I would have definitely been a part of the 'statistic'. Thankfully, I've been exonerated from the 'failed teenager' numbers and in so doing, I hope to educate a lot of parents and children (because teenagers are children) about creating an individual of substance, effectively changing the perspectives of our world. 

A topic such as this one, has never gotten so many twists to the 'tale', as it did this past week. Comments were thrown from all different directions from both my male and female readers. Some, I agreed with and others surely put some things into perspective, as to where a lot of people's minds are concerned. Despite such evaluation, I couldn't neglect the fact that this 'buzz' needed a part two. Irrefutably, withholding sex from your spouse for over a month, got a resounding "No."

A husband and wife's most rapturous connection, is their ability to intimately romance each other, through the body's most powerful expertise to communicate by connecting as One. Unfortunately and believe it or not, almost 85% of marital problems begin in the bedroom and it takes more than persistence to make it over these hurdles. Though problems in marriages may vary, crucial importance must be given to communication because we must all desire to have our spouse attain perfect understanding about our feelings. I recently accommodated one of my ardent readers who, requested advice on this very sexually frustrating topic. Fully assessing his situation, definitely spurred the open avenue of realizing that  a lot marriages are suffering. Not only in the aspect of bedroom matters but heavily weighing on the things couples say and more so - don't say.

It's undeniable, that all women have been associated with men who cheat or an unfaithful mate. Partially looking away from the subject, would reward us with the intricacies and reasons behind this popular behavior. I was moved to write on such a topic by the response of some of my female readers. I sought to look beyond their request, for just the purpose of curiosity but rather, the substantial hurt they feel from being put through such a situation repeatedly. After all, we are human, we can only take so much and we do get sick and tired of it all. Though I understand the female emotions behind it, note that it's not only men who cheat. My focus would not only surround the reasons why men cheat but also to help us all better analyze what is cheating. Ladies, you just might be confronted by your own zombie, realizing that you too, cheat.

Your interests are peaked, I bet but trust me, this is going to be the ride of your life and it's definitely not rated PG13. I could not help but address this topic which seems to be a growing popularity among not only straight, dating couples but also straight, married couples too. Indeed, this was not an easy choice to make because for some reason, the past week provided a wide variety of topics in which to write. This topped the list because I was shocked to know that the practice is creeping up in a lot of marriages and more so, done by couples of appalling ages. If it surprises you any further- you should know that it's the new 'in thing' in the sex world, at least that is exactly what my research tells me.

In life, there are many ways to be happy. Many would proclaim happiness by doing what they love or even attending a party and having a few drinks or more but what is true happiness? Today's article, is inspired by a couple who undoubtedly love each other yet they're living a frustrated life, for the simple reason of 'lack of balance'. Hard to question right?  I too, pondered in trying to figure out the main issue. I figured out so many things from analyzing both sides of the story but I refused to give credit to any of the reasons given. I found it quite strange, that I didn't go ahead in sorting out the issue by offering the solution of 'fighting for love'. Of course I never believe in exhausting that cliche nor am I a believer in sugar coating anything but rather, I wish to offer a more selfless and selfish approach. Furthermore, I wish to highlight that the key to life is balance and it must begin with one's self, before it is extended to any othe...

Troubling subject, I know  but it definitely needs handling. I could not help raising the issue, of what seems to be 'the best kept secret' in some marriages, however minimal the numbers maybe. Realistic figures will show that this accounts for at least 10% of marriages and in my opinion, that's just too darn high! Furthermore, I would just like to make it clear that am not a 'homosexual hater', I just hate the act and just as every homosexual is aware, it is definitely not of God. I have heard the stories and known a few people who got trapped in this situation and trust me, pity does not describe the way I felt when I got the reports. My heart went out to the women who gave their hearts selflessly and committed themselves completely to men they love. Then, I felt even more woeful toward the men who are supposed to be men, to man up and tell the women who they led on, that they're gay before the marriage actually happened.  Clearly that's a bit much to...

Not to fear gentlemen - this article only seeks to be balanced because clearly too many people, fail to think before they act. I will like to preface this article by making it known that I am in no way against men being alpha- males or women being independent. My goal is only to help us create the type of balance, essential to every relationship to avoid misunderstanding caused by un-necessary 'battle of the sexes'.

As my blogs are written to stir opinions and activate hot topics. Today's blog was written from thoughts triggered by one of my readers who commented. What's even sweeter, it was a man's opinion and I agreed with every word he said. While it may be good to point out the wrongs of our men and criticize them for those things, ladies don't you forget that we too, can be at fault. The important thing here is to strike a balance and to obviously, be fair. In my humblest slant, a woman who can admit her wrongs, improves upon them and nurtures things which contribute to her relationship, is exactly the type of woman who receives companionship.

It is always a wonderful scene to notice all the floral deliveries, chocolates and delightful gifts being sent to millions of wives, girl friends and secret crushes all throughout the month of February. A month anticipated by lovers all around the world and yet to so many, confusion could not have chosen better timing. Whether it be love expressed or not felt, gifts liked or disliked and words said or unsaid, emotions run high forgetting what true intentions should be. It's a joy to unfold this envelop I call 'The Celebration of Love' just to settle and bring complete balance to our wandering minds.

Is it inevitable, for people to idolize someone of higher esteem or of great success? I pondered on this over afternoon tea last week. I thought about children, who grow up aspiring to be just like their parents in formative years, then it changes as the teen years set in and carries on to adulthood. The thought process went on further as I considered mannerisms, style of dress and characters. If everyone followed these observations in everyday life, you'd swear Beyonce or Robin Thicke are walking the same streets with you. Funny enough, society now calls it 'swag'. If we only knew what that word means, we would definitely opt to be something else. Of course, I too as a little girl, grew up wanting to be like my mother and sisters then as the teens rolled in, Mariah Carey was the ideal me… or so I once thought. Every child is so inclined to say, I want to be this superhero or that person but we rarely hear a child aspire to be themselves and what strikes me most, is ...

The day most couples have been anticipating is here and the rush hour is going to last the entire day. I usually refer to Valentines Day as the 'pre-launch to spring', people seem to have a hop in their step and there are flowers everywhere. What's sickening, is that single men and women, are despairing over not being with someone so they can at least receive a box of chocolates. There is nothing more disturbing to me. Valentines does not make a relationship nor is it a tool to make love an accessory. Suffice to say, that not every smiling face carries a happy heart and not every gift received, proves a meaningful relationship.

Analysis from years past, would foster the ability to predict what transpires on the typical Valentines Day. Florists are flocked by men of all ages, purchasing roses or extravagant arrangements for their wives and or girl friends, while women perceive that in return, men want a fifteen minute lovemaking session. How did we come up with that perception?... I haven't got a clue. It's rather saddening to me, the way people bore themselves with the norm of Valentines Day and I questioned, "Why don't the majority of people strive for more in the month of Love"? I fixated on the few answers that confronted me. I thought about the men who were indoctrinated by the notion, that Valentines day is just a commercial money making scheme and excused themselves by saying that "Everyday for me is Valentines Day." Poor excuse guys, if you're that cheap, you should be single. Then I considered the gentlemen, who tried thinking about getting something different ...

Tired eyes are awaken to a dark room, hazy rays like orange melody illumes and the pain of the past no longer fades but like your potent head-ache, it comes crashing back at you. In the quick second of realizing that you can't force 'the twilight zone' and it wasn't all a dream… Actually, reality just hit your behind! You're Single, again!  Some way to pop your bubble of isolation but some body had to do it. Matter of fact, you're stronger than you make yourself out to be and he isn't worth going delusional over.

To say that the frequent occurrence of men slighting their relationships by being present yet absent, would be a massive understatement. I pretty much know that at some point in a woman's life, she's dealt with the 'all too comfortable' man. I wish to preface this subject by making it known, that my intention is not to attack men but to bring to the fore their seemingly 'unconscious' exploitation. Such a strong word, isn't it? I know… I find it fitting to use on such a robust creature called Man, aside from feeding his ego, for now.

Essentially, dating techniques has changed throughout the years and so different generations from times past, will tell their tale of how dating was done in their 'time'. In such a review, I was able to observe differences from past  to present which enabled me to enlighten us all on our new found way of dating. Believe me when I tell you that I don't care to rouse nostalgic feelings but to share a fair highlight directed to the flaws made by our modern trend and indicate why it's definitely not working. I'd like to make it clear, that one's reason for being in a relationship should never be for a fear of being single nor for the mentally gratifying cliché of having a spouse. This is by far one of the biggest dating mistakes ever made. As simple as it sounds, this uncovers a multitude of issues. Matter of fact, minds which carry such reasoning, lack self acceptance and confidence. Both factors credits us profoundly in exuding the right energy thus gi...