Life isn't always the way it seems when people are in relationships. 'Faking it til you make it', has sugar coated the growing pains and deceived a lot of people in love. Of course it's done that way to cushion each other's feelings but Ladies, the tension in your neck and the ache in your spine isn't going to disappear on its own. I'm not talking about the bottle of Ibuprofen in your medicine chest nor the jar of Icy Hot on your bed side table. I'm addressing the much needed mind blowing sex, millions of women all over the world are lacking.
Right across the spectrum of relationships, both men and women are frustrated by this 'failed orgasm' shadow. I pity the women who carry the pent up fever and really feel it for the men who aren't very knowledgeable in how to get her there. Hopefully, all that is going to end today because I am choosing to educate us all on how to reach the ultimate climax and change some bedroom perspectives.
I must be clear in saying that I'm no 'sexpert' but I know the needs of every woman, the desires of all men and I do have a good friend who's an incredible Sexologist and Gynecologist. Suffice to say, that I know that orgasms are achievable for every woman, her mate, just has to fully understand the workings of her body. That being said, I wish to uncover the various notions men carry when it comes to love making. Then again, some men either aren't interested in love making or probably are ignorant to its method. If you're a man with this perception, I'm pretty sure your mate is faking it or is aiming to increase her chance of a cervical injury. This is no insult but the 'slam-bam- thank you- Mame' action is just like filling up a water balloon and the second you tie it, you drop it. Talk about wasting a woman's time! If it brings things home clearer to you, that's the female version of 'blue balls' Honey.
Guys, I want to channel your mind to a place of not only desiring your spouse but also to develop the power of making her desire you, by the things you say and it's transitioning through her mind. By now, men should have figured out that sex is not 'just sex' for women. To us, sex is a love making storm; beginning as a Tropical Wave, evolving into a Hurricane. Love making does not begin in the act of sex, it starts in the mind, signaled through conversation and created by atmosphere and mood. Hint- hint clue- clue, that sort of thing gets our juices flowing... literally. I'm not saying that a man should always buy his spouse roses or take her out to an elaborate dinner, I consider budget. Simple things like having a soulful conversation in the morning, giving her attention, texting or calling during the day and acts of affection, like palming the low of her back or kissing her collar bone, does A LOT.
Now that I've illustrated how women are very much directed by our emotions, I wish to deal with men who are fixated on getting inside the woman before taking care of her. I know it's nice and cozy in there but don't rush it because your ego is going to get crushed. The last thing you want a woman to say to you is, "I didn't finish." If you think about being told that, its emasculating because no matter how big your penis is, it's not the only thing responsible for causing an orgasm. If the vagina is not ready, your penis does not matter. 95% of the time, sex begins with kissing but how intense is the kiss and how much are you letting go to enjoy kissing her? It's vital to know that kissing is powerful, it releases chemicals in the brain, preparing the body to be satisfied. What's even more riveting to a woman's nerves in the central reproductive system, is attention given to other parts of the body by either kissing, petting or sucking; the neck, ear, collar bone, the back, breasts, tummy especially the navel and the thighs. By then, you're in Tropical Storm mode because the darn depression is over!
Fellas, I can guarantee you that the 'O-magic' is stirring and she'll be thinking, "Who's this man making me feel things I did not know existed!" Of course, not every man is into oral, why, I don't know but according to one of my good old male friends, "Eating the pudding is my high grade. Makes me thank God for creating women because the view is exceptional." Yes, my friends are very expressive around me. Whether you're into it or not, the vagina needs attention, it's your indication of category one Hurricane, make your lips or fingers friendly or both. Mind you, such an exhilarating experience will by all means make you aware of things with in yourself, you didn't know could rise. Try it and you'll find out. Out of dying need, your spouse will let you know she's ready and it'll be in a way you've never heard her say it. It's up to you to either blow it or create the perfect eye of the storm. Understand though, it's not the size of the tool, it's how you use it. Love making is not tenderizing meat, it's motion from the waist to the hips. Take your time, enjoy what your feeling, pay attention to her sounds and don't neglect caressing your spouse in the process.
Men are gifted and so are women, our gifts may be different but we're both just as powerful. Finding the perfect harmony in bed is not hard work if you subtract some ego and pay attention to detail. To women, kissing is like chocolate, foreplay is like savoring a slice of cheese cake and orgasms are category five Hurricanes that causes chaos to the entire body. The only thing left, is a weak, flaccid woman, unaware of her moans in hallucination with alluring skin.
Written by:
Drishna Gibson
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