The universal practice of having an outside lover, seems to be the trending lifestyle. Boy toys have moved from cars and gadgets to women. Arguably so, some women seem to enjoy the new attention and clearly work hard in keeping all eyes on 'the booty-call' but what really is the importance of 'the other woman'? I want to take a realistic look at this trend and why it's the new common cold, just for men.
I've seen it all and it doesn't take a married woman only, to testify of an unfaithful mate. Not lashing out on the fellas here because some women do enjoy an extra 'side' but my individual opinion stands resolute on a monopoly. However, I'd keep my own emotions at bay and do my best in revealing the all time truth about the luxury of the outside package.
I have friends; single, married and dating, both male and female. In no way was I appalled, in realizing that their cries are no different than that of every other married or dating person in the world. Not too long ago, I stated in one of my articles, a statement a group of my male readers made... it was simply this; "What one woman won't do, another woman will certainly be glad to do it." Of course I wasn't shocked at the statement because I pretty much have the male mental capacity in full knowledge.The flip side to that twisted, little statement, is forthright in showing the real value in 'the other woman'. I believe that all women carry a special value and are created to be sure of ourselves and have impeccable character but settling for being a man's 'other woman', demonstrates the contrary.
Forgive my bluntness but there's something called 'self-worth' and if all you're worth is thriving on some body else's man, you've reduced yourself to be likened to a leech. The very same goes to the man who chooses to be unfaithful, ignorantly portraying himself like a teenager in heat, trying to prove his dick works. Trust me, I'm not hating on anyone but the truth must be told so that people get the full picture of their actions. After all, we know the only way to get rid of leeches is to burn them and dicks that enjoys experimenting on new things all the time, eventually end up in the wrong hole... enough said.
Addressing the men first, would permit me to say that dating two women at the same time doesn't make you a man. You may say, "Well they both have qualities I like, what one does not have the other one has it and I love them both." Typical reason right? The poop just got thrown right back in your face brothers because if you don't love one enough to commit to her, unfortunately they're both wasting their time with you. There aren't enough booties in the world to fill the void you're carrying because the problem is you. I know this sounds cliche but it's a fact; "Once a cheater always a cheater." I'm not saying that people can't change but why obtain the title in the first place? Note to self fellas- being labelled as a cheater is the same as being known to have HIV and that kind of stigma isn't cute.
Should I say that I've gotten used to seeing the proud mistresses walking the streets, knowing that they make relationships and marriages a living hell? I won't dare say they lack conscience but being a man's second option in no way makes them dignified. If you're the proud 'option' doing the things his wife/girl friend refuses to do in bed to him and for him, why haven't he made you 'the one'/ his wife?
"Oh, he doesn't want to hurt her" or, "He's staying for the kids...". Are women really being that shallow? Let me share how a the man and his main woman have 'the other woman' twisted. He comes to you to get his gymnastic freak on with a good side of oral because maybe his wife isn't into stunts and just might not be adventurous to try oral like you are. Guess what, he got it from you without a fight, you cushioned his feather and he's still comfortable sticking to his girlfriend/ wife because you willingly accepted being a part of them both the moment you took him in orally and where ever else you let him put it... Sorry to leave a bad taste in your mouth, literally. You may understand him not wanting to hurt her and staying for the kids, but you denied yourself the importance to make him realize the value in you to end one relationship before starting another one with you or are you numb to feeling hurt too?
As a woman, I carry this philosophy throughout life; "Always treat a woman the way you want to be treated." If you don't carry the belief of "No ring, no thing", at least consider karma when you entertain another woman's boy friend/ husband. Truth be told, the other woman has no importance because she gives herself none.
Written by:
Drishna Gibson
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