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Valentines Day is here... What would be your moments of Reflection?

The day most couples have been anticipating is here and the rush hour is going to last the entire day. I usually refer to Valentines Day as the 'pre-launch to spring', people seem to have a hop in their step and there are flowers everywhere. What's sickening, is that single men and women, are despairing over not being with someone so they can at least receive a box of chocolates. There is nothing more disturbing to me. Valentines does not make a relationship nor is it a tool to make love an accessory. Suffice to say, that not every smiling face carries a happy heart and not every gift received, proves a meaningful relationship.


I've seen this scene play over, way too many times and I haven't quite understood why the machine that controls this part of life is stuck on 'Replay'. As far as I'm concerned, tape recorders are so 90s and people should be much smarter but I am not always right.
Universally, teenagers will frolic with redden cheeks after receiving love notes, teddy bears and sweet-treats. Women are excited by the smell of roses and men are gloating over their pricey gifts. Single's bars will be in full swing, empty flirtations would avalanche and the drunk 'one-night-stands' will ensue. Love can spark many different reactions and dare I say the lack thereof. Emotions should never be allowed to cloud our vision to see beyond the surface or impede our ability to judge what is real. Don't be mistaken, gifts, candle lit dinners and baths are wonderful but has anyone stopped to think about what makes the word 'Love' real? The Bible gives an impeccable account of what is love and I can almost guarantee, that a lot of people have yet to grasp from such sacred Truth, that Love is a choice. Love is not a feeling, if it was so, it could come and go like the four seasons. We feel loved, when the choice is made to truly love us and be beneficiaries of every verb given in the Bible's account.
I hate to always be the one removing the scales from your eyes but having a boyfriend or husband, who will shower you with a largesse of things, does not mean you're experiencing love. Matter of fact, we've grown with the concept that gifts show love or that being financially secure to provide everything we 'think' our spouse want, is showing love but we are sadly misled. If it brings reality any closer, a man can present me with a highly decorated gift box, I can scream with elation but when I open the box, to my surprise there's 'poo' in it. Now where the hell did the love go? To drive the nail further. My husband may be able to purchase the home of our dreams and allow me to buy anything I want to put in it but we lack an emotional connection or we hardly get to sleep in the same bed due to the very job that gave us the house. Is that the way love goes? It will be more fitting, to check into the Four Seasons Hotel, with hopes of having a 'weather cycle' experience there.

Sometimes, it's vital to evaluate our own thoughts on love and honestly ascertain if we are really experiencing it in our relationships. Such reflections, can prevent persons from living in regret after nine months, having incompatible marriages and more so, the miserable life you didn't imagine for yourself. The great Proverb reminds us that… "in all thy getting, get understanding". I challenge us all this Valentines Day, in all of our receiving of gifts; to uncover our spouse's understanding of Love and share, why both parties chose each other to be beneficiaries of a sacred Truth called Love.



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