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The month of Love - All about the Ladies? Think again!

It is always a wonderful scene to notice all the floral deliveries, chocolates and delightful gifts being sent to millions of wives, girl friends and secret crushes all throughout the month of February. A month anticipated by lovers all around the world and yet to so many, confusion could not have chosen better timing. Whether it be love expressed or not felt, gifts liked or disliked and words said or unsaid, emotions run high forgetting what true intentions should be. It's a joy to unfold this envelop I call 'The Celebration of Love' just to settle and bring complete balance to our wandering minds.

Quite frankly, I think that the arrival of February makes people break out into sweats especially men. I don't think this should be the case as it must be understood, that there will never be anything materialistic to show just how much we may love our spouse hence the reason I refer to the entire exchange as 'The Celebration of Love'. This does not mean that we must not seek to be extravagant or 'mind-blowing' because just like variety, Spontaneity is the spice of life.

I will like to refute though, the sad misconception that Valentines was originated by homosexuality. For those who may be using or believing such a claim by ignorance, please research Valentine (the Bishop). Hopefully, investigation will serve to have you cease from using such a lame excuse to not get your spouse a bed of roses…

Speaking of a bed of roses, every woman relishes thoughts of receiving roses, chocolates, jewelry and the list goes on, down to the bedroom treatments. However exciting that may be ladies, and we all know how our men can take our breath away, have we ever considered getting some thing for our man? Love is a two-way street and he is deserving of equal endowment but here we are forgetting that it helps to make a man blush, feel appreciated and in case you haven't figured it out yet, it gives our man a sense of security. We want to enjoy the benefits but refuse to sow a seed? I think we have to re-evaluate our relationship's blueprint for gaining great effectiveness. In my last blog, I likened relationships to a rose garden and I implored men to provide that garden with several treatments but I was not at all referring to men only!

I am not saying that men give to get, although we know that they would be looking forward to some heat under the sheets later but it helps when efforts are equal. I know you must be asking yourself, "Is she telling me to send my man roses"? No… I am not saying that but so what if you surprise him with a rose and put some meaning to it? If you know he isn't shallow to think of it as a gay statement then be my guest! Given that you know your spouse well enough, you will not have a problem selecting something wonderful for him, just to say 'I Love You' in a different way. Don't be the girl friend or wife who only wants to be on the receiving end and provides no speck of excitement for your mate.

Ladies, the Good Book tells us that Love is not selfish but it has Faith, Hope and Endures all things. You never know, a kind gesture might be just what your relationship needs to get back on track. Quit looking out for his gifts and surprises to be an 'I'm sorry' message but rather, this year, allow them to have a meaning of, 'I want you', 'I can't live without you' and 'I Love You' and it's sweet to return the same mystique of Romance.




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Drishna Gibson
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