I fixated on
the few answers that confronted me. I thought about the men who were
indoctrinated by the notion, that Valentines day is just a commercial money
making scheme and excused themselves by saying that "Everyday for me is
Valentines Day." Poor excuse guys, if you're that cheap, you should be
single. Then I considered the gentlemen, who tried thinking about getting
something different for their spouse but resorts to the norm of chocolates and
roses in fear of sending 'the wrong message'. I went on further thinking about
the numberless women, who are stuck with the concept that after she receives
gifts, the man expects her to lie 'dead' in bed awaiting him. My thought
pattern faded as I felt some disbelief of people being, that predictable.
Clearly, it's
long over due for our perspectives to change, causing a trail of action to gain
our desired effect. Of course, we understand the celebration of love entails
expressing it but have we forgotten that originality with pizzazz, is the best
kind of expression? I'm not telling you to buy plane tickets to Peru or be
prince charming at a masquerade ball. Those things are nice too but I do
consider budget and practicality. Having a plan and adding your personal touch,
should not only give you a romantic day but all weekend long. It is important
to consider the things your spouse like but it's teasing to add adventure to
the mix.
It won't be
fitting, to leave your minds confused by a galaxy of ideas, without sharing
some tips that will be sure to create a stir of arousal for your partner.
Fellas, women are emotional creatures and as long as our emotions are met,
everything else fits like a puzzle. Roses are a wonderful statement but if a
woman predicts that they're going to be delivered at work, it provides no
element of surprise. Rather, contemplate her reaction if she walks into the
bathroom on Valentines morning, and is greeted by a warm bubble bath, with
enchanting bath oils, rose petals around the tub and lit candles. You would
achieve several things; the WOW factor and a woman intrigued by the thought
that you planned and executed such a sensual thing, well! Added to that, you
both get to kill two birds with one stone. Having some intimate moments while
showering and still moving on time with your morning schedule. Talk about
having lots to think about while you're at work, she'll be grinning from ear to
ear.
If mornings are
too busy or you both don't live together and given that you have great taste in
women's fashion, buy her a dress of your choice. It may be something she'll
never wear but something you always desire to see her in, with nice heels to go
with it. Yes guys, I do expect you to know your spouse's size. If you can take
it off, you ought to know the size. Have the items delivered to her office with
a personal note, including the time you'll be picking her up for dinner. Don't
mention where you'll be taking her, you are in control here so don't say even
if she begs. You can even opt for cooking dinner for two by yourself, if you
can cook and no one would end up poisoned. Women may get hot-headed over this
kind of surprise but she will eventually figure out what to do with her hair
and manage to be ready when you pick her up.
None of those ideas will work for the girlfriend or wife, who is in the teaching, law or medical professions so there isn't a better surprise than you, her man. She will definitely not be too busy to see her 'Greek-god' of man, in boot-cut trousers and a firm fitting shirt, with a bouquet of roses and a pretty gift bag.
I'd be shocked faced, eye-brows raised and flustered by thoughts of
"Did summer suddenly get here because I'm hot in all kinds of
places". There isn't a better delivered gift than one delivered by the
sender and guys don’t be shy, the hug and shy smooch is NOT going to cut it.
Lay it on her like you own that 'thang'! That pretty gift bag, can have little
clues for what is to come, like massage oils, a blind fold, lingerie or a toy
but the toy that is sure to literally over take her day will be Ben Wa balls.
She'll be curious to know what they are and it would be delightful to show her how
they work like candy but way better. Have her taste one while you taste the
other then, tell her you have a gift for your 'little' friend down south, ask
her to turn around and bend over a little then, insert. Yes… I said it! She'll
run home like a race horse to you, GUARANTEED!
By now, men
would get the full picture on the direction they can take their V- Day plans.
Not to worry though, I don't believe this should be a one-way street either and
by all means women should reciprocate. Every woman knows that men are very
sexual beings but some men haven't quite realized that they too, crave an
emotional pique. I am a strong advocate for men having a spectacular V- Day and
it takes little effort to make it happen. Not that I'm saying men are easy but
more so, they love when we send good signals. The usual wrapped birthday,
Christmas and anniversary gifts are appreciated but how far do we go to really
make a man's jaw drop? A naked woman under a heart patterned apron making
breakfast, is a sweet-treat and a great way to say "Hello" this
coming Friday. A nice tease during breakfast is sure to make any man blush and
there isn't anything cuter, than seeing a guy frazzled over his food. You see
ladies, men enjoy flirtatious frolics, you've become his prey and he's your
Lion. Gosh, I love the sound of that. A part from the breakfast fluster, a man
would never expect to open is briefcase and see a note and a gift box, carrying a watch, cuff-links or a
bracelet. He'll be in his glee and definitely won't forget to thank you later.
I don't ever forget the sistas out there who are wives to men, who come home late because of business meetings, traffic jams and late night shifts. Of course, he still deserves your company when he comes home and having an attitude when he gets there isn't going to help. Use the extra time to cook something sensational, make the table setting fanciful and his napkin can be a laced, red, crotchless panty. You'd be sure to get a raised eye-brow, just simply say, "Oh, I had planned to put that on". Men love great smelling, great looking and tasty things so be sure to breakout the body oil, a mystifying fragrance and a pretty dress. Be the wife he's not expecting when he gets home, smile and greet him with a kiss. He will understand that you've been ready and waiting, that
Valentines
should never be a set program. Couples become so uptight in work to the point
where ordering the roses become part of the schedule and the conversations that
day, centers around work. I know that we have to make money to live and pay the
bills but we are not dating or married to our job. Don't forget to be authentic
and playful with your spouse, it keeps your relationship current and secure.
Written by:
Drishna Gibson
Drishna Gibson
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