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Calling ALL my SINGLE LADIES; and Women who are Married yet Single

Tired eyes are awaken to a dark room, hazy rays like orange melody illumes and the pain of the past no longer fades but like your potent head-ache, it comes crashing back at you. In the quick second of realizing that you can't force 'the twilight zone' and it wasn't all a dream… Actually, reality just hit your behind! You're Single, again! 
Some way to pop your bubble of isolation but some body had to do it. Matter of fact, you're stronger than you make yourself out to be and he isn't worth going delusional over.
Enough of the pity party ladies, being single isn't a crime so stop looking unfailingly ready for a mug shot. If you are such a wreck when you're single, I advise that you stay single for a while. It's time to redefine who you are and build the character of an Irreplaceable and Irresistible woman. Ladies, I believe the 'I's have it, no pun intended. My use of those words are purposeful to exhibit first, what being a woman is really about and second, to project the infallible power women possess. You see, being a woman goes beyond the rise of our breasts and the protrusion of our booty. It's a mystifying tact that men will never understand if such power is used the right way. Until you realize that you are One with in yourself and by yourself, you will be forever giving off the wrong energies.

Women may say that they love themselves but is that reflected by time spent with self to think peacefully, set a standard and work towards building an attitude that is electrifying and magnetic at the same time? Ladies, there must be maximum enjoyment with self before  wanting to acquire the company of a mate. Instead of carrying around the check-list of what our parents pronounced to us; such as being outstanding in school, getting a respectable job, get married and raise a family but rather, we must concentrate on what we truly want. I might come across rebellious but in the case where mothers failed to show and teach true independence and audacity, the task is on us to learn it.
Being an irreplaceable woman, in no way defines being a man's doormat or his servant. In the complete contrary, it means to have self-respect, gain his respect, reveal exemplary character, be unforgettable in thought and deed and finally to be a challenge. Crucial to such assets, is the bold concept that you do not need a man to make you happy. He is as God created him; rib of our rib, help mate to us as we are to him and head of the home in thoughts, ideas and plans but not above us to trample on our reasoning, dismiss our desires and abuse our bodies, but beside us in companionship.
Why do women look at magazines with images of women in spas, on vacations, at the gym and shopping and say, "I wish that was me". Exonerate yourselves from that kind of thinking and do it! Those very things are what I mean by self love and time spent with self, they are vital in enhancing your attitude for magnetizing the right male attraction. Even if you can't afford a spa day or a vacation at this time, get your nails done or get a pedicure and have a glass of wine… Activities like these shape us emotionally and changes our perspectives in redefining who we are and in turn, realizing what we really want. Sometimes we deny ourselves the pleasure and wrongfully find solace in a boy and not a man and label him "boyfriend". That is exactly what I call 'sad impulsive behavior' and it should be banned. Ladies, the only way we are going to shape 'big boys' into grown men is to simply set standards! It's time we let guys with their pants below their butts and dazzling earrings know that we're not interested in a 'gangster hippy' who always appears to have an urgent need to pee.

Forgive my bluntness and back to the topic at hand, I didn't mean to indentify why guys like that should be single. The irreplaceable and irresistible you, deserves better! Speaking of irresistible, it is important to be honest and ask yourself if you are irresistible. This is hard for some women because they are trapped in serious denial. In case you forgot, men go after what they see. It's true that first impressions last but first impressions becomes easily forgotten if you've lost the 'WOW factor'. It's important to look good always… not for a man but for you. Looking good is not effective unless you have confidence, it's key in making your statement so that the power with in us comes out without uttering a word. The bonus point to all of that though, is to know your worth. If he can get the milk for free, he will never have a reason to buy the whole cow. That saying is often heard but very seldom done and because of that, women have made themselves conquered projects or the beaten video game level then on to the NEXT. Allowing a man to sample the cookie, acting out gymnastics in bed and going down on him will not keep him. If a man wants to cheat- he will.

Being visually teasing, mentally challenging by being admirably forthright and emotionally captivating makes us, Irresistible! Ladies, you have no right to not enjoy your singleness as it is a time to have undivided time with self. You are your best investment and it's important when you see the effectiveness of your own change.



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 Drishna Gibson
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