Believe it or not, I'll preface this article by permitting us all to liberate ourselves, through our fantasies. The point is... let's rid ourselves of the pretentious front, we'll never succeed being someone we're not. Hence, the reason why there are unhappy people walking our streets. Everyone has a different tolerance level for boredom but when it comes the the bedroom, boredom can never equate to being satisfied.
What does this have to do with love- making? A lot! I'm pretty sure you've been in a relationship or is currently involved with a great person but the heat between the sheets is practically non- existent. As a result, your body is left unsatisfied and very disappointed. The effects can even hamper the relationship through frustration and unless you communicate the kind of spice you want in sex, then your desires will only remain desires, unfulfilled.
Sometimes I wonder what couples really speak about because for the most part, people who're dating complain about bedroom issues that can be easily discussed and resolved over dinner. In other cases, some people are just not compatible all together. What's causing the sexual suffering, is the failure to communicate with our partner what we really want in the bedroom. In all my research of couples, married and dating, I've discovered something troubling. It's simply this; almost eighty percent of couples stop flirting with each other as soon as the relationship is established. I was shocked to see how people allow their love lives to die by just getting too comfortable. Added to that, the big factor hanging, is either one or both partys have physical insecurities, 'shyness' or is too religious. I've even realized, that there are a lot of folks who are not capable or have never talked naughty with their spouse! I mean, how can that even be possible? This is 2014...There is just no room in intimacy for those petty hiccups. I want to be clear about something. If your lover wanted a front page model, they'd have one but that person chose you. They saw the beauty in you to make you a part of their lives and you have to accept that. A 'six-pack' doesn't define a real man nor does a 26" waist define a real woman. Never let insecurities hinder your sexual experience, after all, confidence aids in the Attractiveness department. If you have an issue with your body, work on it - you have the power to change it.
Now I've come to the part where shyness mixed with being over religious shows up their ugly head. Or, should I say plain ignorance? Whatever it may be, I'm not quite sure why people think it's perfectly fine to only keep sex in the bedroom? Even worse, I don't understand how men are fixated on the 'doggy' style position, with the lame belief that it's gratifying to women all the time. It also beats me to hear women say they always want to be in the missionary. Talk about being religious! Sex is not restricted to any room in the house, that's what brings the thrill. If one position worked perfectly the last time, it does not mean you should do the same thing again too soon. Be spontaneous. Women like to look at their man make love to them, not to be moaning facing an object. Head's up Fellas, try laying her on her stomach, lie on top of her back and rock the boat! Trust me, you'll have more leverage and she'll feel a lot more connected but I'm not telling you guys to do Ballerina stunts now. Those things make up the finale yes but the key to awesome love- making is always setting the mood and having foreplay and lots of it. Unless of course there must be a quickie. Oral and anal sex are always the optional parts for both partys to decide on.
After giving such mild sex education, I'll like to address just how far people are taking this 'Going Green' thing. I love nature but there are just some places where nature has to be tamed. I know back in the day, our fore parents never bothered about this but with the progression of time and enlightenment, we now know better. Though I'm seeing that some marketing techniques has labeled it okay and even went as far to design mannequins to make lingerie sell, it's sickening. Being Eco friendly is good but going green and smelling green is a great contrast, and men and women, need to pay attention.
There is a huge reason why pornography makes so much money and its primarily because the actors look ten times better with their private parts shaved. In case you're from the old school or you're the new school and don't know; pubic hair is not cool, it does not keep you feeling fresh and it is NOT attractive. That goes for both men and women and the underarms too. Ladies, men don't need to have the experience of getting hair in their teeth going down on you and Fellas, Ladies would like you to know the juggling fury balls isn't an appealing thought or experience. I really hate to bring out like that but it had to be said.
I've learned a valuable lesson from a wonderful friend of mine who've always told me, "Knowledge is only power, when it's applied". I have wrestled with this topic and how much people needed to be reached with this type of information. After all the stresses in life, the things that should always be in tact are the functionality of our relationships and personal upkeep.
Written by:
Drishna Gibson
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