She's in love with her Husband but he's got the 'hots' for another Man.

Troubling subject, I know  but it definitely needs handling. I could not help raising the issue, of what seems to be 'the best kept secret' in some marriages, however minimal the numbers maybe. Realistic figures will show that this accounts for at least 10% of marriages and in my opinion, that's just too darn high! Furthermore, I would just like to make it clear that am not a 'homosexual hater', I just hate the act and just as every homosexual is aware, it is definitely not of God.

I have heard the stories and known a few people who got trapped in this situation and trust me, pity does not describe the way I felt when I got the reports. My heart went out to the women who gave their hearts selflessly and committed themselves completely to men they love. Then, I felt even more woeful toward the men who are supposed to be men, to man up and tell the women who they led on, that they're gay before the marriage actually happened.  Clearly that's a bit much to expect from men, who frolic in female tendencies. What's even more vexing, is that these couples would have already built their lives together, to be flabbergasted by such foolery.

I promise to be short but every individual reading this should know, that there are always signs in dating. I will never believe anyone who claims that they would never guess that a friend of theirs, is gay. I know that not all gay or lesbian people, portray the obvious signs but there are still other ways to know. If you’re a great communicator, you will spot a lesbian from a mile, just by the way she'll look at you; with the kind of desire only a man should have for you, not forgetting that she's always wanting your company. Just so you know, I really appreciate open homosexuals, I admire their boldness and I can tolerate their honesty but I always watch the discreet ones with a lizard eye. Most of the time, they're the ones who just can't get enough "coochie" but are madly attracted to the species carrying the pipe they want to drink from. Matter of fact, I have quite a few gay friends, some are open but I know the undercover "down-low" brothers. No problem with that either because every woman knows that they’re fun to be around.

All jokes aside though, I blame both parties who are stuck in this kind of web. At some point, the wife in dating, would have heard some body say, that the guy she's with is a fruit or he seems to be one. I know hearing that is offensive but it's true. Love is blind sometimes and other people will see and notice what we don't. He might not have been fully involved with another man at the same time with you but at some point before, it had to happen. He might have even thought that is was bad impulse or an experiment but lo and behold, the feelings are always there. Even worse, he might have been a Christian, knew it to be sinful and thought it best to do the holy and right thing to marry a woman but oh how secrets come out! What ever is kept in the dark will come to light because Christianity is not Christianity if you are faking it. I don't mean to step on any toes but this foolishness has to stop because a gay man deserves better, than to carry the load of knowing that he broke a woman's heart, especially if he promised to love and cherish her forever. My biggest advice to singles would be to definitely be friends first, for a while. Take time to know each other and I promise you, that things will reveal themselves, I have tried it and it worked. Some men are coward to say that they're gay but learn to be smart enough to take a hint.

When marriage has already happened and the secrets explode, people end up like shattered glass. Despite all that, a wife must be strong enough to walk away. I will not tolerate the excuse of staying in it because of children, that is the biggest mistake any couple can make. Tell me, what does it profit a family to remain together if the two adults are miserable with each other? I know that I am not wrong to advise both parties in this situation, to get a divorce. No, you have not invested too much to let go, reality check - your investment went un-noticed because clearly he was too busy 'getting busy' with another man. A woman can always start over and men will never learn unless we teach them a lesson, which by the way - will be too late.  Yes, I have considered the embarrassment but at least you're not the unfaithful one, much more the gay one. Ladies, don't you forget, that we've got backbone, our spines can carry the world. 

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Drishna Gibson

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