Phenomenal Point of Views by Drishna.

No matter where you live in this world, someone on your street or on your job is being unfaithful. You may wonder what's the basis on which I make such a bold statement but if you look deep enough, you'll discover that I am right. I know that's a tough reality to face; it even makes you wonder about your own relationship. However, this article is not intended to insight fear but rather, equip our minds with sound thoughts when dealing with an unfaithful spouse or if you're the one doing the cheating.

Being that this is a tedious subject, I advise that all men reading this post, should not do so defensively. I've listened to the opinions of my friends (both male and female) on this matter so I've decided to share my perspective with the world. I recon that we all have an appreciation for the diverseness of our human species. No matter our race, size, the colour of our eyes, our status, our abilities and inabilities; as we'll say in my country, "every pot has their spoon". Though women have become verse in many ways, can we live with forfeiting a man's touch in our bedroom?

If you possessed the ability to freeze time, what's the first thing you'd do? I'm sure the answer to that question will never be the same because in this journey of life, our intentions are like musical combustion. However, in the area of relationships, all of us might agree, that all we want is a faithful and loving partner. Though infidelity can cause heartache, I see it as the adventure of life. Many would say that being faithful is much easier than the task of cheating and although I am in full agreement with that reasoning, I wish to explore the cause of infidelity. Is it the thrill? Is it a phase? Is it a never ending quest for something new? Or, is it an insurance for inadequacies? I would say it's a combination of all of those things. You see, women and men are very much alike in the excitement for something shiny and new. Women are just as exposed to the opportunity of male indulgence the very same way, a lady will catch the eye of a man. What if I sugges...

It is my understanding, that every person in their childhood years would usually fantasize about reaching adulthood. Of course, half of us were not prepared for what was about to hit us and as a result, ended up being bitter adults with false pretence and some how feeling robbed. The following tips are what I hope to be a "reset button" and also a starting manual for many teenagers across the world. B elieve in your Individuality - During the course of life, its easy to compare our journey with that of our friends and relatives. The process might be thrilling as though we're on a race track and on a race track, there can only be one winner so let's look at ourselves differently. Realize that you're unique and appreciate the fact that your journey will be different than others, because your destinations are not the same. W ork on becoming your best Self - When we look in the mirror, there is always a spectacle on our body we'd like to chan...

In the world we live, people from all aspects of life desire to build relationships, and some how feel content, knowing that they share the intimate parts of their life with someone. That may sound all well and fine but just how content, is too content? I couldn't help but ask that question whilst observing a few relationships around me. I mean, it's never a great feeling realizing after your partner has been unfaithful, that you might have actually pushed them there. I'll state categorically that cheating is in no way excusable or a right practice. It is my view, that if an individual is interested in someone outside of the relationship sexually or otherwise, they should break the present relationship before beginning another. Sounds fair right? Oh but the

As children, we chanted; "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me". Far from the truth, right? Our journey into adulthood taught us all too well, about the power of words and how much they can hurt. However, though we may understand words and their power, there seems to be a glitch in communicating certain things within the realm of relationships. I don't wish to address things on a communication level but rather our actions and perceptions regarding the dating practice. We all know that there's no "perfect" relationship or marriage, and thinking that you can have a perfect one, means that you are grossly delusional. Permit me to get blunt and share some of things you may never see coming in a relationship.

It's my strong belief that people should create the life they want. However, there are a few spectacles in life where such advice should not be applied. When it pertains to the male species, our approach must be different and sensitive to gather accurate information. You see, our careers, fashion sense, fiscal abilities and communication practices are all shaped by what we desire them to be but what's impossible, is

Whether we believe or not; a moment lost can not be regained. If life had a rewind button, many people would gladly return to their past and undo some things. However, the reality is that the law of time does not allow for that sort of thing and our only hope is to strive for making better choices. Though the responsibility to make better choices gives us immense power; are we using it? I wish to take you through a mental time lapse of what potential your 2017 could have if you use your power well. I won't stray too far from my niche of writing about relationships. I'd first like to tackle the responsibility we hold to grant ourselves the happiness we wish for. Being a young business woman myself, I've had the opportunity to meet and socialize with dozens of people my age and a little older, from various backgrounds. No matter how diverse we may be, we all have one thing in common- goals. What's even more intriguing is how we would all go about achieving these go...

From years gone by to the present, the dimensions of marriage has evolved. Dimensions of the conditions put forward before entering into a marriage, extending to materialistic aggrandisement. Sounds puzzling doesn't it? Unfortunately, that's exactly what marriages have become in the twentieth century. Though nothing is wrong with planning, setting goals and preparing for the different stages of where your marriage will go, being great money managers can assist your marriage in thriving and surviving. A marriage union ought to be sacred and beautiful but it can only remain that way, if both parties can meet on  common ground, financially. Don't be mistaken, I am in no way saying that finances should be equal between a couple. That would only be ignorance on another degree. There would be marriages where the wife is a housewife, a husband chooses to be a house- husband, an ill spouse and where both parties are working. However, what is key importance here, is how the c...

In a world that is ever changing, most people would have thought that the skill of adaptation ought to be practiced in every situation. Of course, change is inevitable but not all changes are acceptable and they certainly do not force us to do so. However, when it pertains to ones happiness, it must be realized that ones power to choose can either effect change or, hinder it. Letting go is one of those things that can give you either result, but what are the determining factors to aid us in deciding when to pull the plug? Throughout the journey of life, lessons are taught, some are direct and others, not so much but letting go is one of those things that we teach ourselves. I'm not saying that we should make "letting go" a habit because that only proves commitment issues but rather, to acknowledge that we deserve more. Whether it be a past experience, a friendship, a relationship or even grief, detaching one's self from a thing takes willpower. As I was ent...

The season of travel and unexpected fun is here but besides defying gravity with a flight to some where beautiful, there are numerous things you can do to make this Summer a landmark memory. School semesters are nearing the end and everyone appears determined to do some of the wildest things but I believe we're forgetting a few things. Vacations are always a welcomed event and dare I say much needed. What's also a need is a redirected thought process to get us back on track. However, you'd be surprised to know that a memorable Summer does not require traveling at all. Whether you are single, dating or married, never neglect the right to have some alone time for personal gratification. I've realised that most people have become so busy to the point where they forget to set boundaries for breathing space. Time lost can never be restored and time wasted is an opportunity

The old chant says "First comes love then comes marriage, and then comes the baby in a baby carriage" . This childish banter still exists but it's becoming clearer to me, that some people take it into Adulthood and marriage is seen as just that - "Marriage" and then the rest. It is no lie that marriage isn't easy and although difficulties will arise from time to time, we must understand when and how to revive the relationship. A marriage will face the battle of financial stress, infidelity, lies and abuse but after determining the desire to stay together, it takes resilience to save a marriage. Of course, counselling is always advised but after you leave the Marriage Counselor, then what? After gathering information over time, many things stood out to me as to why we have so many failed marriages and unhappy unions. A general overview shows that a lot of couples have lost their desire to put effort into the marriage either because they've become unint...

Safe evaluation has made it apparent that the world around us is sexually stifled. Men and women are walking around with the silent issue of their own sexual frustration. One may ask, “How can that be possible?” I understand your confusion, given the free accessibility to pornography and the way it’s transforming today’s society but such assumptions are deathly wrong. Frankly, being aware of the different ways intercourse is practiced and enjoying its entertainment in no way, denotes our sexuality. Matter of fact, I wish to take you on a journey to discover your very own sexuality, shockingly by embracing every part of your being in the mirror!

Most days, I like to force myself into thinking that the majority of people in our world are capable of logical thinking and on others; the reality sets in. The reality of watching the one thing every human has in common to crave, either implodes, explodes or  on the good days - flourishes. Not very long ago, I was asked the question - Do people say the words "I love you" too quickly? Instantly I had thoughts that were plenteous and too colourful to mention at the time but I am more than happy to share some of my honest findings and experiences here; of course all in good stead to benefit peoples of the world, looking for the answer. As humans, we rely a lot on our feelings and emotions. Sadly though, "feelings" and "emotions" do not always lead us right and in the field of love - that's where we get hurt the most. Do you remember your first boyfriend/ girlfriend in High School? You felt and thought it was love right? You thought you were special ...

Appreciation must go out to the mothers wh o gave birth to us and to the fathers (whether present or absent), who'v e helped in shaping our minds and sensibilities. Of course, we're in the heart of the Christmas Season, emotions are piqued and ready to be surprised by what ever good experiences are headed our way but, what are the true thoughts the majority of women are having at this time? Just a few weeks ago, I had the pleasure and was very much enthralled by a conversation I was having with a few of my girl friends. Funny enough, every where I went after that occasion, I heard the buzzing of conversations of a similar nature or the exact issue. To make it clearer, the women I speak about hail from several different Caribbean countries and various professions. Their concerns are diverse and far reaching, and today I'm going to put it out there. By now, in this generation and time, women all around the world share the understanding that no one is perfect, ...

Whether young or old, we all gravitate to certain things and people. The question is, however; Do we like who and what we're attracting? My recent observations are proving to be quite conflicting and I'm beginning to question our sense of reason and entitlement. I wish to show us a picture that will hopefully bring some realizations in helping us understand what we want and need from our lives and relationships. I think that it's safe to say that everyone desires a sense of achievement in life that will grant us the ability to attain the things that will bring us happiness or dare I say; what we think will bring us happiness. I'm pretty sure that statement sent our thoughts to our finances and its reach but it's wise to know that happiness goes beyond that; at least for me it does.

It is well known that in our youngest stage of life, we fear nothing, and as we grow and become less ignorant to the facts and patterns of life; our personalities are shaped. In this article I wish to expound a bit on the mind and heart that is programmed to only process the things which "preserves" us. Although self preservation is applaudable, there are some other things that are more than what meets the eye. Rest assured, I would not bombard you with psychological findings or terms but rather, sharpen our vision in realizing the behaviors of the people we love and communicate with daily. The dating pool is said to be flooded with opposites. We often say that opposites attract and while that may be very true, we must ask ourselves; Do I know who I'm dating? You see, it's easy to be swept off of our feet by what we 'think' is love when in fact, we haven't yet discovered the person we profess to 'love'. Evidently, it's common pract...

After posting my last blog, I received a couple emails from readers asking for advice pertaining to dealing with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend and moving on from that sort of attachment. Honestly, it baffled me to see how many people really do struggle with break- ups. Looking back on my past articles, I realised that I've written quite a bit on making relationships work and embracing your singleness, and not very much about break-ups. It's apparent that people have a genuine problem with getting over relationships, and some how assume that the best remedy is to maintain a friendship with the person you've been in love with. Obviously, everyone would have their opinion about this but I'm about to open your scope a bit because when you've been there and done that, it's damn time to move on.

With the passage of time, life is duty bound in teaching us various lessons. Some, we learn through happiness, sadness and pain but eventually the purpose was to armour us with coping skills and what I call- "Investable Power". One may question my reasoning throughout this article; I'll encourage you to personalise it. As difficult as it may be to admit, we all struggle with something and it must have happened in the past.

Bouncing off of my last article, I found it necessary to go a bit deeper into the hygiene pool. I am very aware that this type of enlightenment may offend some but what's most important is the drive to create better hygiene practices. This time around, I wish to share a few tip-bits, that are capable of altering the way we see and treat ourselves. Good hygiene isn't just our shower practices and bathroom duties but also what we do with our garments; particularly under garments. I understand that my readership spans to different parts of the world but when it comes to undergarments, the rules are simple. In the case of women, we share a love for the cutest panties and eye- catching bras; however, the deal breaker is to have them on, and not smell the best. Understand this ladies, if you wear a bra once or at the most twice, it's dirty! It isn't wise to wash your bras with regular laundry because breasts are delicate and some laundry detergents and fabric softeners...