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The Past does not have the power to determine our Future.


With the passage of time, life is duty bound in teaching us various lessons. Some, we learn through happiness, sadness and pain but eventually the purpose was to armour us with coping skills and what I call- "Investable Power". One may question my reasoning throughout this article; I'll encourage you to personalise it. As difficult as it may be to admit, we all struggle with something and it must have happened in the past.


The first step in understanding people, is actually understanding yourself and being able to identify the "thing" which is hampering your emotional and physical progress. Preceding any life achievement there is always an emotional event, perception or epiphany or dare I say, lack there of. It is very true that what so ever we think or develop in our minds will affect the way we live, beginning with our choices. We can all relate that life isn't perfect and neither is it fair but are we really creating the future we desire for ourselves? Charity begins at home so I'll use myself as an example. I'm no where close to the age of thirty but life has taught me some terrific things through some of the most craziest events but I am thankful for them. Events that brought me seasonal joy, pain, hurt and not forgetting tears but it's all where I learned the art of Investable Power. Of course before I came to that place of Investable Power, there were things that I convinced myself that weren't for me, people I didn't want to cross again, walls I built that I thought would protect me from a reoccurrence of hurt and even worse, I had begin to believe that the life I desired for myself wasn't possible. Thank God for wisdom because I was quick in realising that the hurt I felt and the thoughts that I kept on feeding myself, was giving my past power to control my future life experiences. That is exactly when I came face to face with myself and worked on adapting to the thought process, that the best of my life is actually the rest of my life.
There is a junction in each of our lives, where the path is no longer straight and it forces  us to stop and re-evaluate. It's the place where happiness is looking at us straight in the eye and yet the remembrance of hurt plagues us with fear, and an emotional fight literally ensues with the magnetism that ignites our soul in the direction in which our deepest desires originate verses our fear. That's the place where we find Investable Power.

Power given to oneself to understand that you're no longer responsible for your past. Whether it was abuse as a child or an adult, a broken relationship, bankruptcy, divorce or even a traumatic incident that might have lead to disability. You are no longer responsible for that but what you are responsible for, is the way you move forward. Never allow your past to break your will to be the best you. Although we may acknowledge that everything happens for a reason, the past is designed to propelle us into bigger and greater things. Moving forward requires focusing on our own happiness and knowing that the things we went through has already served their purpose in our lives.

In the quest of attaining completeness, we must ask ourselves some questions: (I) Am I living a life unaffected by the hurt of my past? (II) Am I depriving myself of fulfilment because of a self- constructed wall? (III) Is the life I'm living right now bringing me happiness? These are simple things to consider but they beckon us to go deep into the places we choose to shut off. Here's the raw truth; the past is nothing but a memory and the Future is where possibility lives, desires manifest and where we realise that we are more powerful than the scars life has given to us.

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Drishna Gibson
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