No matter where you
live in this world, someone on your street or on your job is being unfaithful.
You may wonder what's the basis on which I make such a bold statement but if
you look deep enough, you'll discover that I am right. I know that's a tough reality
to face; it even makes you wonder about your own relationship. However, this
article is not intended to insight fear but rather, equip our minds with sound
thoughts when dealing with an unfaithful spouse or if you're the one doing the
cheating.
I am very aware that
we live in a world where open relationships are accepted and practised, and
some folks even say that cheating is inevitable. What I am curious to know, is
the reality you tell yourself about cheating. Everyone has a tolerance level and
may handle situations differently but what is your ultimate game plan?
Uncovering and
exposing infidelity is like taking a bullet to the chest; it's painful and in
some cases, you question if you're even breathing. Accepting the truth of it
all is a tough pill to swallow but the quicker you drink the water, you'll be
two steps closer to recovery. After all, the number one thought in your mind is
"Why?" We all seem to want a reason right? Guess what, the reasons
don't matter, all that matters is the act was committed. You can only
acknowledge that trust was broken and then ask yourself what your next course
of action should be?
You see, we must
understand that unfaithful partners carry a void and those voids are triggers.
The act of cheating is just an avenue or anti- depressant for emotionally scared
people. Harshly put but if you ask marriage counselors, they'd tell you that seventy
five to eighty percent of infidelity in marriages are caused by a partner
unknowingly battling emotional issues. However, what is most important, is
knowing your value and accepting that you have the power to choose; whether to
stay or to leave.
Count yourself lucky
if you are not married and discovered the cheating because you have nothing
holding you back from moving on, knowing that you deserve better. Married
couples exchanged vows and entered into covenant with God and so, both persons
must reach an agreement to enter into counselling as long as the unfaithful
partner has cut off the extramarital relationship completely. If there is
hesitance to go by the process; why subject yourself to a life of insecurity
and disrespect?
Love is beautiful
and being in love with someone who you have the joy of having a relationship
with is a treasure. When signs of unfaithfulness begin to show, we must always
rise above the "expected reactions" by doing the mature and also the
unexpected things. At the end of the day, we must be satisfied that we did our
best and made it very clear what we deserve and will accept.
Written
by:
Drishna
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