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Knowing when to Let Go.

In a world that is ever changing, most people would have thought that the skill of adaptation ought to be practiced in every situation. Of course, change is inevitable but not all changes are acceptable and they certainly do not force us to do so. However, when it pertains to ones happiness, it must be realized that ones power to choose can either effect change or, hinder it. Letting go is one of those things that can give you either result, but what are the determining factors to aid us in deciding when to pull the plug?

Throughout the journey of life, lessons are taught, some are direct and others, not so much but letting go is one of those things that we teach ourselves. I'm not saying that we should make "letting go" a habit because that only proves commitment issues but rather, to acknowledge that we deserve more. Whether it be a past experience, a friendship, a relationship or even grief, detaching one's self from a thing takes willpower. As I was entering my teenage years, my mother and an older childhood friend of mine, told me that I must always remember that I am not responsible for my past; whatever happened to me then was because I didn't know better but what I am responsible for, is my future. At that age, I considered the advice and thought of it as their expectation of me, being laid down like the Law. I went on with life cautiously and obtained willpower.
From the beginning of time, we were all given the power of choice. Freedom to choose between good and evil or dare I say, God or the Devil, after that came willpower to grow then came understanding to develop with our choice. So far, society has clearly grasped the 'freedom of choice' part, but what has happened to the rest? Forgive my bluntness but if the choice was wrong, having the willpower to continue forward would be a challenge and understanding why you are where you are in life, will be like a brick maze. For clarity sake, if one chooses to hold on to a traumatic experience, the avenue to bring peace can not present itself. Joy can not infiltrate an individual who's chosen to cling to sorrow or grief. The thorough enjoyment of a person who is destined to be one's soulmate can not be given until one gains the willpower to detach from the person who is your comfort- zone but not your happiness.

 Letting go comes from the determination that life has more to offer, it's a choice to no longer depress yourself by one's chosen oppression. It took me little time to understand what my mother was trying to impart inside of me and so I'd simply share it here... Being responsible for one's future is choosing one's happiness and having the willpower to let go of the things and people that no longer serve your purpose. You see, hurt is as painful  as you feed it but how long are you going to carry the hurt? It is part of your past; therefore, you are not responsible for it anymore. Let it go...



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