Phenomenal Point of Views by Drishna.

Appreciation must go out to the mothers wh o gave birth to us and to the fathers (whether present or absent), who'v e helped in shaping our minds and sensibilities. Of course, we're in the heart of the Christmas Season, emotions are piqued and ready to be surprised by what ever good experiences are headed our way but, what are the true thoughts the majority of women are having at this time? Just a few weeks ago, I had the pleasure and was very much enthralled by a conversation I was having with a few of my girl friends. Funny enough, every where I went after that occasion, I heard the buzzing of conversations of a similar nature or the exact issue. To make it clearer, the women I speak about hail from several different Caribbean countries and various professions. Their concerns are diverse and far reaching, and today I'm going to put it out there. By now, in this generation and time, women all around the world share the understanding that no one is perfect, ...

Whether young or old, we all gravitate to certain things and people. The question is, however; Do we like who and what we're attracting? My recent observations are proving to be quite conflicting and I'm beginning to question our sense of reason and entitlement. I wish to show us a picture that will hopefully bring some realizations in helping us understand what we want and need from our lives and relationships. I think that it's safe to say that everyone desires a sense of achievement in life that will grant us the ability to attain the things that will bring us happiness or dare I say; what we think will bring us happiness. I'm pretty sure that statement sent our thoughts to our finances and its reach but it's wise to know that happiness goes beyond that; at least for me it does.

It is well known that in our youngest stage of life, we fear nothing, and as we grow and become less ignorant to the facts and patterns of life; our personalities are shaped. In this article I wish to expound a bit on the mind and heart that is programmed to only process the things which "preserves" us. Although self preservation is applaudable, there are some other things that are more than what meets the eye. Rest assured, I would not bombard you with psychological findings or terms but rather, sharpen our vision in realizing the behaviors of the people we love and communicate with daily. The dating pool is said to be flooded with opposites. We often say that opposites attract and while that may be very true, we must ask ourselves; Do I know who I'm dating? You see, it's easy to be swept off of our feet by what we 'think' is love when in fact, we haven't yet discovered the person we profess to 'love'. Evidently, it's common pract...

After posting my last blog, I received a couple emails from readers asking for advice pertaining to dealing with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend and moving on from that sort of attachment. Honestly, it baffled me to see how many people really do struggle with break- ups. Looking back on my past articles, I realised that I've written quite a bit on making relationships work and embracing your singleness, and not very much about break-ups. It's apparent that people have a genuine problem with getting over relationships, and some how assume that the best remedy is to maintain a friendship with the person you've been in love with. Obviously, everyone would have their opinion about this but I'm about to open your scope a bit because when you've been there and done that, it's damn time to move on.

With the passage of time, life is duty bound in teaching us various lessons. Some, we learn through happiness, sadness and pain but eventually the purpose was to armour us with coping skills and what I call- "Investable Power". One may question my reasoning throughout this article; I'll encourage you to personalise it. As difficult as it may be to admit, we all struggle with something and it must have happened in the past.

Bouncing off of my last article, I found it necessary to go a bit deeper into the hygiene pool. I am very aware that this type of enlightenment may offend some but what's most important is the drive to create better hygiene practices. This time around, I wish to share a few tip-bits, that are capable of altering the way we see and treat ourselves. Good hygiene isn't just our shower practices and bathroom duties but also what we do with our garments; particularly under garments. I understand that my readership spans to different parts of the world but when it comes to undergarments, the rules are simple. In the case of women, we share a love for the cutest panties and eye- catching bras; however, the deal breaker is to have them on, and not smell the best. Understand this ladies, if you wear a bra once or at the most twice, it's dirty! It isn't wise to wash your bras with regular laundry because breasts are delicate and some laundry detergents and fabric softeners...

We usually hear the saying, "Knowledge is power" and we think that it's so profound but the reality is; knowing some thing is of no use, if we choose not to apply it to our everyday lives. The case of ignorance in the area in which I'm about to write, is inexcusable for adults who should be self aware and thriving to improve. However, you're going to learn something new today! Those are the words of a dear friend. I understand that in formative years, parents may fail to teach children some things. Whether the reason is for lack of knowledge themselves or choosing to neglect to pass on the information regarding practicing good hygiene but when one becomes an adult, one is responsible for oneself. Now, I know that we all know about soap and water, showering twice daily and applying the essential deodorant and fragrance there after but is that all there is to smelling good? There is a sense that we were all born with that very few people lack; it...

Where I come from, there's a saying that says, "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger". Sad enough, that saying does not apply to all aspects of life, especially relationships. Just like food, people can be toxic and when that begins to happen, it shows. Even worse, when it causes you to lose interest in being your best self, it's a sign that confidence no longer exist and despair has taken over. After reading this article, it's my hope that our eyes will depict the people that no longer serve us and even further, challenge us in being our best selves. As an individual who've seen it vital to impact the lives of others positively, I've grown with the perspective of rising beyond my social environment. I've made such a statement to bring out two points: (i) Not everyone you converse with on a regular is your friend. (ii) It pays you no benefit to fit into "The Ordinary". I understand that we all will have different...

As a conversationalist, topics of all varieties usually arise among my circles and what's even more striking is that I'm bold enough to tackle the most sensitive issues. However, if you're one who's usually caught on the side of naivety, this article is definitely too much for you. In the value of opinion, I hope the can of worms I'm about to open, will become the topic of conversation in churches around the world and most of all, the paradigm shift for Christians. With that being said, let me share the conversation I had in one night with a group of friends who requested that I tackle the issue of sex before marriage and what the single/ dating Christians are expected to do. I'd be forthright in saying that I am not a believer of religion so the term Christian to me, is a demonstration of Christ like qualities, the new testament lifestyle with an understanding of our purpose. The conversation was stirred by a friend acknowledging just how much the...

Life is no fairy-tale and those who believe that it is, are a tad bit delusional. I've grown and witnessed quite a few mishaps and broken souls but what stood out to me more, is that they all had something in common. Each event happened because a choice was made. Whether good or bad, some of our choices can hinder us from our true destiny or steer us in the right direction of who we really want to be. Harsh way to begin this article but I intend on being honest with all my readers.  It is my belief that a parent will raise a child and inject into that being whatever is right or wrong in their opinion and most of all, place their expectation on that life, for their desired outcome but, what's even greater, is that there comes a time when an individual chooses the person that they want to be. Simple enough right? For many, I wish it were so. I won't go down the religious path because this goes way beyond that. However, I will say that a stifled individual is a hurt indiv...

As unconventional as the title of this article may seem, it's true to the depths of which many of us have  never uncovered. One may ask, "How can my fear of snakes or heights, lead me to what I want?" That's a funny way of looking at it but I wish to go deeper into the fears that make our emotions quake and cause us to question our very own inhibitions and effectiveness. If I were to put it lightly, fear of snakes, heights and what ever else gives us goose bumps, are trivial and recovered by the mare switch of thought and direction.

As the "Month of Love" approaches, or so it is referred; I could not help but be bothered by a frightening trend patterning among us. The word 'tradition' is now the new enemy, as an excuse for 'creative originality'. All well and good for self exploration but I believe we're taking it too far because somethings are designed to remain a certain way. In this article, I hope to broaden our scope in the area of evaluating our relationships. For some, it might be a harsh reality check and for others, a journey to knowing yourself.  At my age, and I'm not very old; I've lived through the hard evidence of seeing the spheres of communication in the dating and marriage world, belly flop. It seems that by some snap of the finger, we've switched roles. Who's responsible? I'll get to that in a while but do we remember the days when a man truly admired a woman and approached her with the sole purpose of knowing more about her? I'm not tal...

At the beginning of every year, billions of people across the world set out on making what they call a "resolution". Somehow, it's seems like the proper way of admitting the need for change and the urge to turn a new leaf. Seems applaudable right? I think so too but what's conflicting, are the reasons change is desired and the failure of letting go of past hurt. I wish to open a new vault in our thinking because while change is good, old habits always serve their purpose.  I must admit, I used to be a statistic in the "resolution makers", that is, until five years ago. Just to put it out there and make it clear; people are miserable because they're unconsciously being "people pleasers". I know it all to well because I had vowed in changing so much, until I became one of them. It took me getting frustrated and being walked all over, to realize that I had no voice. I concentrated on serving others and neglected serving myself. Ignorance had ...