Life is no fairy-tale and those who believe that it is, are a tad bit delusional. I've grown and witnessed quite a few mishaps and broken souls but what stood out to me more, is that they all had something in common. Each event happened because a choice was made. Whether good or bad, some of our choices can hinder us from our true destiny or steer us in the right direction of who we really want to be. Harsh way to begin this article but I intend on being honest with all my readers.
It is my belief that a parent will raise a child and inject into that being whatever is right or wrong in their opinion and most of all, place their expectation on that life, for their desired outcome but, what's even greater, is that there comes a time when an individual chooses the person that they want to be. Simple enough right? For many, I wish it were so. I won't go down the religious path because this goes way beyond that. However, I will say that a stifled individual is a hurt individual and an unsure person is meant to go- no where. One may wonder how I got to this conclusion? I can tell you that it was not simple but in my many conversations with dozens upon dozens of people, I've discovered that a lot of people fail to give themselves value. This may seem strange because we all claim to love ourselves but Self- love and Self- worth, are two very different things. Everyday, we look in the mirror and would either compliment or critique our image but in the end, we'd smile and be content, reaffirming our love for "Self", but do we dare go beyond just what we see? Recalling the earlier days of my youth, I remember being bright and always positive but now and then, I'd be fazed by my fellow peers who were almost docile, conflicted and timid. Such behaviors I believe stemmed from parenting; I refer to it as blind parenting. The kind that socializes a child by using fear, control and insults. If you are or were a victim to this type of parenting, I understand, not because I've experienced it but because I know it can be debilitating. Strong word but it's most fitting. What's most important though, is how a person chooses to rise beyond the obstacle of their past. For those who have yet to realize, your worth is not given to you by your parents, an inheritance or an experience (good or bad). Your worth can only be given to you, by yourself. The thoughts you think toward yourself (not physically but emotionally) acknowledges your worth. Your ability to know that you deserve the best and more so, to realize that you have something beautiful to give to the world - your Purpose.
The aforementioned begins with a simple act of - choice and if your choice to own and value your worth requires something more solid then seek the unfailing truth of the Bible in 1 Peter 2:9. When you take ownership of your worth, you won't settle for just being content; you'll go after something more exhilarating.
Written by:
Drishna Gibson
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