Phenomenal Point of Views by Drishna.

As my blogs are written to stir opinions and activate hot topics. Today's blog was written from thoughts triggered by one of my readers who commented. What's even sweeter, it was a man's opinion and I agreed with every word he said. While it may be good to point out the wrongs of our men and criticize them for those things, ladies don't you forget that we too, can be at fault. The important thing here is to strike a balance and to obviously, be fair. In my humblest slant, a woman who can admit her wrongs, improves upon them and nurtures things which contribute to her relationship, is exactly the type of woman who receives companionship.

It is always a wonderful scene to notice all the floral deliveries, chocolates and delightful gifts being sent to millions of wives, girl friends and secret crushes all throughout the month of February. A month anticipated by lovers all around the world and yet to so many, confusion could not have chosen better timing. Whether it be love expressed or not felt, gifts liked or disliked and words said or unsaid, emotions run high forgetting what true intentions should be. It's a joy to unfold this envelop I call 'The Celebration of Love' just to settle and bring complete balance to our wandering minds.

Is it inevitable, for people to idolize someone of higher esteem or of great success? I pondered on this over afternoon tea last week. I thought about children, who grow up aspiring to be just like their parents in formative years, then it changes as the teen years set in and carries on to adulthood. The thought process went on further as I considered mannerisms, style of dress and characters. If everyone followed these observations in everyday life, you'd swear Beyonce or Robin Thicke are walking the same streets with you. Funny enough, society now calls it 'swag'. If we only knew what that word means, we would definitely opt to be something else. Of course, I too as a little girl, grew up wanting to be like my mother and sisters then as the teens rolled in, Mariah Carey was the ideal me… or so I once thought. Every child is so inclined to say, I want to be this superhero or that person but we rarely hear a child aspire to be themselves and what strikes me most, is ...

The day most couples have been anticipating is here and the rush hour is going to last the entire day. I usually refer to Valentines Day as the 'pre-launch to spring', people seem to have a hop in their step and there are flowers everywhere. What's sickening, is that single men and women, are despairing over not being with someone so they can at least receive a box of chocolates. There is nothing more disturbing to me. Valentines does not make a relationship nor is it a tool to make love an accessory. Suffice to say, that not every smiling face carries a happy heart and not every gift received, proves a meaningful relationship.

Analysis from years past, would foster the ability to predict what transpires on the typical Valentines Day. Florists are flocked by men of all ages, purchasing roses or extravagant arrangements for their wives and or girl friends, while women perceive that in return, men want a fifteen minute lovemaking session. How did we come up with that perception?... I haven't got a clue. It's rather saddening to me, the way people bore themselves with the norm of Valentines Day and I questioned, "Why don't the majority of people strive for more in the month of Love"? I fixated on the few answers that confronted me. I thought about the men who were indoctrinated by the notion, that Valentines day is just a commercial money making scheme and excused themselves by saying that "Everyday for me is Valentines Day." Poor excuse guys, if you're that cheap, you should be single. Then I considered the gentlemen, who tried thinking about getting something different ...

Tired eyes are awaken to a dark room, hazy rays like orange melody illumes and the pain of the past no longer fades but like your potent head-ache, it comes crashing back at you. In the quick second of realizing that you can't force 'the twilight zone' and it wasn't all a dream… Actually, reality just hit your behind! You're Single, again!  Some way to pop your bubble of isolation but some body had to do it. Matter of fact, you're stronger than you make yourself out to be and he isn't worth going delusional over.

To say that the frequent occurrence of men slighting their relationships by being present yet absent, would be a massive understatement. I pretty much know that at some point in a woman's life, she's dealt with the 'all too comfortable' man. I wish to preface this subject by making it known, that my intention is not to attack men but to bring to the fore their seemingly 'unconscious' exploitation. Such a strong word, isn't it? I know… I find it fitting to use on such a robust creature called Man, aside from feeding his ego, for now.

Essentially, dating techniques has changed throughout the years and so different generations from times past, will tell their tale of how dating was done in their 'time'. In such a review, I was able to observe differences from past  to present which enabled me to enlighten us all on our new found way of dating. Believe me when I tell you that I don't care to rouse nostalgic feelings but to share a fair highlight directed to the flaws made by our modern trend and indicate why it's definitely not working. I'd like to make it clear, that one's reason for being in a relationship should never be for a fear of being single nor for the mentally gratifying cliché of having a spouse. This is by far one of the biggest dating mistakes ever made. As simple as it sounds, this uncovers a multitude of issues. Matter of fact, minds which carry such reasoning, lack self acceptance and confidence. Both factors credits us profoundly in exuding the right energy thus gi...